MSN today pops up the moment I turn our laptop on which is annoying at times, and sometimes some topics just make me click away and read for the heck of it, one article I read recently was about exes, yeah, old flames. and if it is OK/healthy to look them up through the internet after you're married?, Myspace and Friendster being ever so helpful with not only looking up people but knowing what they look like now, so the temptation is always there to type the name of our "used to be's" right? the article discussed about how far should we go, should we just be content at knowing they are still alive? or do you always say "Hi.. wazzup?" when you do find them?

It said (at least the author did) that looking up an ex can mean many things, some people do it just to have to have a good laugh when they find out that their ex is now 30 pounds heavier, married to a girl who is not even 1/4 as pretty as you are, I confess to this sin.. this is how I make myself laugh sometimes hahahaha! BUT, it becomes a threat to your marriage when you start looking them up, spend a minute or two looking at their "now" picture and smile at your memories together and you start typing an email, when you want to get in touch again, the author said that it might seem harmless to some but in reality, when you start wanting to be in touch with an ex you haven't talked to in a long time, at the back of your head you wonder if maybe life would be better if you ended up with him/her, you're longing for something to happen that is not happening to you at the present.. meaning you're not happy..

I really wish I can remember the author's name so I can quote him and maybe copy some of his smart words hehe... Oh well... I'm just writing this because the moment I closed that window,a Yahoo bublle popped that I have an email from a name I never thought I'd still remember, yeah, an ex way way back in college, the email goes.. "It's me, how are you?" I replied "married and very happy" he replied again telling me that he's married too with two kids now and frequents my province coz of his line of work and was asking for pictures of me and my family, I just said "look me up in friendster" I don't even know how he got my email.. or what made him email me, it was the kind of relationship that when it ended, there's pretty much nothing to talk about anymore.. nothing. we didn't become friends during the relationship, and we can't start being one now, there are just exes that when they come back to your life they become an excess, you just don't need them.

oh well... whatever his reason is, i'm not saying more than hello back, what's over is over.